Friday, March 12, 2010

Does Your Man Know the Real You

In a relationship, it is very important that you be open and honest with one another for the relationship to be successful. How often do we as women say "I want my man to be honest with me" or "I want my man to tell me what he's really thinking"' Yet, we don't always show our true colors to our partners.

Does your man know the real you' Or is it possible that you've been showing him one side in order to "land him"' We often act one way in the beginning of the relationship and as time goes on, we complain that our men don't understand what we really want. Perhaps this is because you're not showing your man the real you.

Here are some signs your man may not know the real you:

*  You pretend to like things that he likes
*  You pretend to like things to please him
*  You never remove your makeup, wear comfortable clothes, etc when he is around
*  You never talk about your past
*  You never talk about your family
*  You never talk about your true feelings
*  You feel your partner doesn't understand you

These are just a few signs that you may not be revealing your true colors to your man. If you're just in a short fling, it's not that big of a deal but if you're looking to serious with someone, you have to open that emotional door and reveal yourself to him. This doesn't mean you have to open the floodgates and let it all out at once. However, over the course of a relationship, little by little, you should begin to know one another. Through chats and time spent together, you can begin to share things about yourself that will help your partner get to know you.

Does your man know what makes you tick' Does he know your favorite color, your favorite song, your favorite movie, how you feel about world issues, politics and religion' Have you ever debated with your man over a controversial topic' Have you ever shared a secret or something very private'

Revealing things about yourself heightens the intimacy in your relationship and makes the bond between the two of you stronger. It also helps your man get to know what you're really like inside so you both know if you are a true fit for one another and also how to keep one another happy. A relationship built on false pretenses will not be very fulfilling and typically does not last very long.

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Thursday, March 11, 2010

Top 5 Steps for Dressing Sexy in the Bedroom

Who doesn't want to look hot in the bedroom? Most all of us will want to look and feel sexy in the bedroom but so many women feel like they fall short in this area. Are you waiting until you look sexier before you dress sexy? If so, then you're looking at it backwards. To be sexy, you need to dress and feel sexy. It's also important to get something that makes you feel good. Even if your man buys you an outfit, if you don't feel good in it, you're not going to exude the same sexiness as you will in your favorite lingerie. What are some ways you can feel sexier when you dress for the bedroom?

Here are 5 steps to dressing sexy in the bedroom:

1. Feel sexy. Sexiness is all about attitude. Your man is much more likely to notice low self-esteem and self-consciousness in the bedroom more than a little belly bulge or cellulite thighs. Stop worrying that you're not perfect enough and feel sexy. You will elude sexiness all around.
2. Get sexy lingerie. Take the time to find some special pieces of lingerie that really make you feel good. Choose pieces that suit your body type and your personality and make you feel like the sex goddess that you are inside. Sexy lingerie doesn't have to cost you a fortune and if you worry that you can't afford it, just save up for one really nice piece that makes you feel great.
3. Get the right size. Many women make the mistake of buying lingerie in the wrong size or style for their body type. When they put it on, it's doesn't look good or feel good and they do not feel as sexy. Choose something in the right size for you and something that fits your body type. It will make a huge difference in how sexy you feel.
4. Dress sexy when no one is around. Wearing your sexy clothes around the bedroom or even around your apartment when you are alone is a great way to make you feel more comfortable in them when you are with your man. Watch yourself in the mirror while wearing your favorite sexy outfit. Practice walking and dancing and moving.
5. Practice technique. Don't be afraid to rent an exotic dancing tutorial video or read up on your striptease skills. When you practice your technique, it will help you perform it with confidence in the presence of your man.

Remember you don't have to be a supermodel to look sexy in your lingerie. We're not all built for Victoria's Secret but that doesn't mean you can't feel good about who you are. Confidence is one of the sexiest features any woman can have.

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Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Dating Expert and Relationship Expert Stephany Alexander - Bio

"Dedicated to outing the bad apples."
New York Times

"This could protect my daughter."
First Lady Maria Shriver

"Reviews your potential mate like Zagats critiques a restaurant."
Esquire Magazine

"I've got a guy I can put in there."
Celebrity Kim Kardashian

"This has the potential to change men's behavior."
Patrick Byrne, Founder,

Stephany Alexander, B.A. Communications, B.A. German
aka "Little Miss WomanSaver"

Dating and Relationship Expert, Women's Speaker, CEO/Founder of Date Screening Service
Founder of C-301 Non-Profit Foundation for Abused Women, Children and Animals
Founder of the #1 Most Popular Abused Women's Forum
Best-selling Author of “Sex, Lies and the Internet,” An Online Dating Survial Guide
Women's Speaker

Stephany Alexander is the founder and CEO of, one of the most popular womens sites on the net (top 5%) receiving millions of hits per month. is a revolutionary woman-to-woman social networking system with thousands of men's names and descriptions entered globally to promote safer dating worldwide. It's FREE to search and free to post!

Stephany has shown celebrities like Kim Kardashian, Comedian Elayne Boosler and First Lady Maria Shriver how to use the internet to screen people to protect themselves, their families and what they value. She is considered one of the world’s foremost authorities on dating and relationships. Stephany has over 9 years of experience in matters of the heart and how to improve your odds of finding a great relationship. She has counseled thousands of men and women worldwide and attended and exhibited at countless dating and relationship conferences around the world.

Stephany is the dating expert for Idea Marketers, the relationship expert for and a featured speaker for "Women for Hire." She speaks fluent German. In 2008, Stephany was awarded a Lifetime Achievement Award for Women’s Abuse Prevention. She has been awarded “Woman of the Month” by the Femme Network and spotlighted by Women’s Business Magazine as a woman to watch in the future. She is a co-founder of SWWAN, the (Single Working Women’s Affiliate)

Founder: One of the most popular relationship and abused women's forums
Author: "Sex, Lies & the Internet," A Survival Guide to Online Dating"
Author: 100+ Relationships & Infidelity Articles
Author: 22 Dating & Relationship Quizzes
Internet Polling Expert surveying 600,000+ women on relationships
Creator: 12 relationship comedy cartoon e-cards, plus 1 claymation
Creator: 6 online relationship games, 1 arcade quality
Traveled to 39+ countries interviewing people on relationships
Featured speaker for "Women for Hire
"Exclusive" dating expert for Idea Marketers
Featured speaker for Speaker Services
Speaker at i-Date, the world's largest social networking conference

WomanSavers nominated as finalist for prestigious internet Pixel Award (Academy Awards of the Internet)

Stephany is frequently called on by the media as the nation's leading authority on relationships and dating. She has been featured on: the Mike & Juliet Show (repeat dating expert), E! Entertainment, CBS Early Show, FOX Nationwide News, Fox Business, FOX Sports, Sirius Satellite, Playboy Radio, KROQ, KIIS-FM, Esquire Magazine, USA Today, Wall Street Journal, NY Times, Chicago Tribune, Glamour, Women's Business Magazine, Associated Press, National Enquirer & countless radio and internet shows.

Professional Memberships:
NAFE (Natl. Assoc. of Female Executives)
NOW (Natl. Organization of Women)
WITI (Women in Technology)
NAWBO (Natl Assoc. of Women Business Owners)
WLE (Women's Leadership Exchange)
DWC (Downtown Women's Club)
NAWW (Natl. Association of Women Writers)
International Virtual Women's Chamber of Commerce
U.S. Women's Chamber of Commerce
AWE (Assoc. of Web Entrepreneurs)
Cambridge Who's Who of Executive
Princeton Professional Leaders
International Virtual Women's Chamber of Commerce
Member of the Academy for Professional Speaking

Ms. Alexander is a member of Charli Jane Speakers, Intl. Association of Speakers and Speaker Services. She is a graduate of James Malinchak's College Speakers Training and a graduate of Bill Gove's Speaker Workshops. Stephany had the honor of being asked to be a speaker at i-Date, the world's largest social networking conference.

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Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat

Why men cheat on women is an age-old question. The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Nevertheless, we have compiled a list of the top ten reasons why both married and unmarried men cheat. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.

So why do some men cheat in relationships? Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce. However, aren’t we suppose to be further evolved than a chimp? Shouldn’t we be able to control our bodies through our minds and conscious decisions? Apparently not always.

Here are the top ten reasons why men cheat:
1. Because they had the option.
The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.

2. It boosts their ego.
Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.

3. You grow apart.
Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.

4. You argue a lot.
Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.

5. They have fallen out of love.
Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.
6. Your sex life stinks.
If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.

7. To get revenge.
A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old-fashioned sex?

8. It’s new, different and exciting.

Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.

9. To see if they can get away with it.

If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.

10. Because you have allowed it in the past.
If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.
Reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above list or even be a combination of a few different reasons. Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest. After all, what comes around, goes around.


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Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Avoid Dating a Scammer

Avoid Dating A Scammer
4 tips on how to screen men
By Dating Expert Stephany Alexander

Dating safely after your divorce is an absolute necessity in today's world. Some people can begin dating again within a few months, others take years.

Whatever the length of time you decide to take is up to you, but it is important that you do take some time to get to know yourself again and embrace the single person that you once were before your marriage.

According to a poll of over 1,500 women conducted by, 31% feel that a date turns into a relationship after dating for 3 months, 20% after you've had sex, 16% when he says I love you or after 6 months, and a mere 14% after 5 dates.

There is no rush ' so take your time and do your research. Here are some tips:

1. Explore options of meeting a safe date through friends, church, school, the gym, at a party or even walking a dog in the park. If you decide to date online, be sure to go to established date sites that have a long-term success ratio.

2. Try to get a first and last name of your potential date as soon as possible ' Google his name, run it through the database, and check your local felon registry. If you think that this person is someone you may be interested in long term, do a background check on them. If you have children, you must screen your dates even more because many times pedophiles will target single mothers for access to her children.

3. Stay as anonymous as possible and don't give out your real name or personal details early on. When you meet someone for the first time, meet in a public place and use only your first name. Wait for a while before becoming intimate. This allows you to screen out the players who are only after sex.

4. If you do decide to become intimate, use protection until both parties have been tested for sexually transmitted diseases.

Good luck and safe dating to all!

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Monday, February 22, 2010

Womansavers Top Dating Do's and Don'ts

As a dating expert who has given dating advice to tens of thousands of people since early 2000, there are 20 basic Do's and Don't Rules in the world of dating to help you increase your chances of succeeding while dating. Dating can be fun and exciting but getting involved with the wrong person can destroy your life. How do you put the odds in your favor when dating? I have broken down the top 20 Rules of Dating to help you find that special person.


1. Do relax and have fun. Dating is supposed to be fun so make it fun. Choose activities that you both love so you can relax, laugh and enjoy. If you think dating is miserable, then don't do it.

2. Do groom yourself before your date. Make sure you are freshly showered, have fresh breath and have an outfit on that flatters you. Save your crazy or overly sexy outfits for when you get to know the person better.

3. Do Listen. Listening is more important than talking. Ask your date lots of questions and hone in on similar interests. Don't brag about yourself constantly because that is the ultimate turn-off.

4. Compliment your date. If you think your date looks nice, say so. Don't focus on your date's imperfections; focus on their good points. If it looks like your date took time to get ready, compliment them by letting them know.

5. Be positive. Don't complain on your date. Nobody wants to hear how miserable you are. A poor attitude can destroy a date faster than anything.

6. Be honest and upfront. If the date didn't click, tell your partner that you will have to think about it and that you will contact them again if you are interested.

7. Be proactive. You need to take the initiative to meet people to date. Practice flirting, smile, be friendly and make eye contact. This will show people you are available and will increase your chances of being asked out.

8. Do date creatively. Don't go to the movies where you can't talk or get to know your date better. Go to dinner, bowling and then a movie or go horseback riding, hiking or to an arts or music festival.

9. Do let your friends and family know you are dating. You never know when someone you know may try playing matchmaker for you. It may or may not work out but you should be open to meeting someone new.

10. Do be polite and have manners. Offer to pay for all or half of the date even if you are a woman. Say “please” and “thank you” and be respectful of the other person's feelings.


1. Don't be late for a date. Make sure you leave early enough to deal with traffic delays or other things that could delay you. Being late shows that you don't respect the other person's time and sets the date off on the wrong foot.

2. Don't chase someone. Don't phone, text or email them more than once a day unless you are in a conversation with them and they are replying. Being desperate is a huge turn off.

3. Don't date people who you think will use you. If you have money, don't tell the other person. If a man comes on too strong for sex early on, shut him down and move on. You want someone who wants you for you, not what you can do for them or give them. Once they get what they want, they'll move on to their next target.

4. Don't lie to your date. Don't over exaggerate your income, education or what you do. These lies will eventually come out and then you will appear as a dishonest loser.

5. Don't come on too strong. If you are anxious to get married right away, that's okay. However, constantly talking about serious commitment issues such as marriage and children on a first date can scare your date away.

6. Don't sit around and wait for his or her call. Stay busy. There is nothing more pathetic than someone who immediately drops their life or routine for someone they just met. Your goal is to have a fulfilled life that another person can add to.

7. Don't get drunk or use drugs on your date. What kind of an impression are you making if you are incoherent when you first meet? Your date will think you are like that with all people.

8. Don't flirt with others while on a date. This may seem like common sense but nothing will end your date faster than you hitting on your date's friend.

9. Don't have sex with someone until you have dated a while. A while does not mean 1 or 2 dates. If it was meant to be, it will be and part of the fun of dating is the thrill of the chase.

10. Don't give out too much personal information on a first date. Keep your home address and telephone number confidential until you get to know your date better and make sure you always meet in a public place.